The real issue today and the cause of most problems or division in families is the issue of control. And we're all a bunch of controllers. We like to be in control. That means pride and fear are ruling in your life. Pride leads to control. You think, "I deserve to be in charge". Fear leads to irrational control, afraid of letting someone else lead. Trying to control our own circumstances. Insecurity leads to control . . . you don't want your insecurity exposed; you don't want to be out of your comfort zone. You can control people through your emotions, through anger, etc. Control is the issue. This is what causes problems in families; it’s what causes problems in the body of Christ.
This is a very hard truth for people to grasp. A lot of families are in
bondage to a controller in the family. Some control through anger so
others are kept in line out of fear. Some control through excessive
emotions leaving the rest of the family to walk on eggshells in fear of
the controller lashing out emotionally. Controllers rarely admit to
their sin leaving behind many hurt damaged husbands or wives and
children and others. If you're unsure this is describing you find
someone who isn't afraid to tell you the truth, this in itself can be
hard. The only way to freedom is repentance ask God to give it to you.
The truth is there's almost nothing you're in control of.